More light on personal pain please

SEEK HELP: Keiasha Naidoo is our north west Sydney editor. Share your thoughts with her email: [email protected]南京夜网419论坛The tragic incidents across Sydney in recent weeks havehighlighted the importance that as a society, we need to be more aware of those among us who need support.
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One incident that captivated the entire country and even received global attention was the murder-suicide of the young family of four in Davidson.

Understandably, many questions are raised about the support that the parents received, the state of their marriage and the disabilities that both children had.

From the little that has come to light through the media, we know life would have been challenging for any young family who had no familysupport in Sydney.

Introduce two children with special needsanda father who had a busy job into the mix – and the family struggles are almost unimaginable. While their deaths are tragic this family has become the victims of the court of public judgement. We willnever know the important details that ledto the tragedy.

Also this week, we heard the news of a woman’s body being found in a home that caught alight in Guildford. Her husband has been charged with her murderand further details will undoubtedly reveal themselves in due cause.

Of course the news of this incident is horrific, our thoughts as a western Sydney community has to be with the two young children who lost everything –their mother, father and their home.

A third incident that moved me was the death of youngCorey Kramer, who died while riding his motorcycle in Mount Druitt.

The news of this death kicked me in the gut, but his mother’s story of how she found out her son had died and her recollection of identifying his body is gut-wrenching.

Mary-Jane Hodder is a mother of immense strength and dignity.

Despite her pain and suffering, she displayed humility and was very gracious in her comments about her son, the role he played in his own death and the role of all other parties including the other driver, Corey’s passenger and the police.

Iam sure everyone who has raised a teenager will know there are some moments when they don’t listen to parents, when they think they are invincible, when as a parent you wish you could have done something differently.

Some comments that Ms Hodder has received on social media are unfair and hurtful as thefamily prepared for his farewell.

Before casting aspersions on any of these unfortunate incidents, we need to take a step back and recognise that people in our neighbourhoods, schools and work places may need help.

This help may take the form of a kind word to a mother who lost her sontragically before jumping to conclusions. Or it could be recognising when a mother has too much on her plate and offering to help in a small way, or lookingfor the signs that person may be experiencing problems that could lead to a tragedy at home.

It is often said that it takes a village to raise a child, but in this fast-paced modern lives we need the “village”throughout our lives – a community to back us when we need support and pick us up when we fall.

Even more importantly, it is up to us to seek help when we feel we like things are just too difficult, when we feel like we are drowning. Afamily suicide, murder and a tragic accident are the horrific endresults.

So much happens before these final steps are taken. Each time we face adversity we need to seek help to prevent tragedies from becoming a reality.

The festive season is almost here and often stresses appear even more apparent at this time of the year. So the message to seek help, and help others is even louder.

Making that difficult call for help, taking the time to helping others and being less judgmental in our personal views or social media comments could go a long way to seeing fewer stories of tragedies in the news.

If you know of anyone who may need someone to talk to contact Lifeline Australia on 13 11 14.This story Administrator ready to work first appeared on Nanjing Night Net.